He doesn't know exactly what religion he is, but he knows he's definitely not LDS. His parents are VERY much LDS (Latter Day Saints is a popular religion here. Here's the Wikipedia page if you don't know what it is.) and I am VERY much pagan. (You can probably already see the fireworks... ) They've known for some time that he dislikes the LDS church, and they know he doesn't go. They even jokingly call him a "heathen". Personally, I have a strong and deep dislike of the church (not the members, at least, not MOST of them) and of the church's "teachings" and non-stop proselytizing. I don't know if they know about this, but I suspect they do, and they do know I am a "devout" pagan.
That's just the religious side of the arguments... on top of me being a hardcore pagan harlot about to steal their son (I kid, I kid, he came willingly. xD ) ... they also know that we've been having sex. (With protection, always. had one miscarriage and that was more than enough for us to realize we do NOT want kids... yet.) They tried talking to us, but it was more of them talking to him and telling him that what we're doing is/was "a mistake" and that "you may think she's all this and a bag of chips" but it was stupid to have sex. I guess the reason they feel this way is that he's "immature" for a whole bunch of (to me) unrelated and stupid reasons (he only works part time, he doesn't have a second job to occupy the time he spends "just sittign around", he's "lazy", he didn't immediately go to college and doesn't really want to because he has no idea what he wants to do and we can't afford it, etc.), and therefore unable to make his own decisions regarding what in his pants. Not only that, but his "moral compass" is broken or something, because they don't see it as aligning with theirs, and this makes them feel like bad parents. They've already had one girl mess up and get pregnant out of wedlock twice. (She got married and now has two gorgeous girls and a brand new baby boy.) As I said before, I did have a miscarriage. I'm not 100% sure since I didn't do a pregnancy test until after, but that doesn't change the fact that it was enough of a slap in the face to us that we changed our habits quickly.
I know they're worried about pregnancy, and that we'll be in poverty, but I really wish I could tell them to back the @#$% off, but in a nice way. We're both adults, and we can handle ourselves. He's moving out soon, and is going to be living with my parents and I until we get our own place, because we hadn't planned on saving up the whole amount this early into the year but he needs to leave ASAP. I know that even after he leaves, they won't drop it, because they themselves said that "that's our opinion; it's NOT changing". This has caused us both a great deal of stress, driven us to the end of our wit, and almost driven us completely apart several times. It's taking a HUGE toll on my depression and energy because trying to compromise is like trying to tell a brick wall to move aside.
I've asked SO many people, and I get ambiguous answers which range from this:
*Before you ask: He has a job, but it's only part time with .1% chance of ever going full time, BUT... he makes enough that it's WORTH it to keep it.From all you say, you both are pretty young. He needs more education to get a job* to support himself. Let him get that. If he has no motivation to do anything he is too young to get involved with you. Your needs at 18 will expand. Move on towards bettering your education, job, and you will not be so depressed. Remember this: You will not enjoy being poor. This boyfriend is not worth your time. Guys mature slower than the ladies. I would guess age 27 is a better guy age to get involved with.
To people saying that I should go with my guts and tell them to @#%$ themselves. I'm about to marry their baby boy; how do I get them to realize our morals, his and mine, aren't going to be dictated by them, no matter how much doom & gloom they forecast? Is there a nice way to get them to back off, and still be able to associate with them as family? How does one navigate this kind of religious/moral snakepit?