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To (not) kill a mother in law

Posted: Thu Jul 24, 2008 11:06 am
by Willow
Hey all,
so the first of my two wedding ceremonies is in two days, needless to say, hell is about to get another handbasket.

I am perfectly not stressed, which seems to to be stressing out everyone else in my family, including my fiance.

If anyone would like to keep my family in their thoughts I would appreciate it. I am not sure why my family is panicing, they tell me stuff like my Dad's tux or uncle hank sitting with aunt joan is an emergency, but I can't seem to see it that way.

I truel appreciate all your htoughts and prayers,Iw ill also get some pics up ASAP.

Re: To (not) kill a mother in law

Posted: Thu Jul 24, 2008 6:27 pm
by Kitsune
Darn you!!!

:lol: :lol: :lol:

Mine is in another three weeks, and I'm a basketcase... Mind you, when I think about it, it could be because I only got the Tessens (Japanese War Fans) that I'm using instead of a Bouquete in today, and we still haven't recieved the guys outfits, or our guest book... oh, and I haven't sent out invitations yet...

Okay, so perhaps my natural procrastination just took over... That's allright, at least the fans are here, right?

You go girl, and don't worry, I'll send your family some energy. If you can stay unstressed, do so... If only so that I can draw on the calming vibes you're giving off. hex: outtahere:

Re: To (not) kill a mother in law

Posted: Fri Jul 25, 2008 1:53 am
by Lotus
yeah, tell everyone to chill out and be quiet. :-$

Good luck with the wedding stuff.
I will think calming thoughts for them.


Re: To (not) kill a mother in law

Posted: Fri Jul 25, 2008 3:42 am
by Crazy Healer Lady
Pffffft. You're a PhD student: You're used to stress.

Sending love and energy their way! and yours :)

Re: To (not) kill a mother in law

Posted: Fri Jul 25, 2008 10:22 am
by Bandersnatch
Sending calming waves your way... :sunny: :sunny: :sunny: :sunny: :sunny: :sunny: :sunny: :sunny: :sunny: :sunny: :sunny: :sunny: :sunny:

And I'm with you, don't sweat the small stuff

and congratulations and best wishes, too

Re: To (not) kill a mother in law

Posted: Mon Jul 28, 2008 8:35 am
by Titania
For all the brides to be, best wishes on your wedding day.

Re: To (not) kill a mother in law

Posted: Wed Jul 30, 2008 2:12 pm
by Willow
THanks, three days away...OMG. Had hair done today, love it. A,lso saw my centrepieces. love them.

Everything looks good and I am happy witht he way things are turning out,. I think I have managed to manage my mother. We will see. I have to turn off my sarcasm response when I find her frustrating.

I am getting a bit nervous about beigng on display though, 170 people is a lot!

Re: To (not) kill a mother in law

Posted: Wed Jul 30, 2008 2:39 pm
by Crazy Healer Lady
Just pretend they're students!!

Re: To (not) kill a mother in law

Posted: Wed Jul 30, 2008 8:34 pm
by Kitsune
Not related to your wedding, but I thought this might help you keep a level head when talking to her next...

Grimwell's Mother called him to ask for some details about our ceremony, and eventually worked up to asking the question "So, Are you going to be sacrificing babies?" #-o ](*,) :axe:

Grimwell made the mistake of laughing and since I was standing with him, he asked me what he'd just been asked. Without even thinking I responded sarcasticly, "Oh, only two or three...". :roll:

I'd thought she'd asked a dumb question, but that Grimwell had asked me something different... I couldn't believe that anybody would even consider asking that seriously...

So, at least you don't have to deal with that sort of drama... Blessing and Sunshine for your big day! :hug:

Re: To (not) kill a mother in law

Posted: Thu Jul 31, 2008 3:37 am
by Crazy Healer Lady
Oh Kitsune...

Tell her yes. I'll even buy a fake baby and a ritual slaughter knife.

(By the way, we went to something called Sanctuary over the weekend with a life-sized replica of the Sanctuary and an hour long tour or preaching. Yeah... They had a display in the entrance. At the front was where they did the ritual slaughter, and they had a cotton baby lamb, lifelike. Just a little creepy.)

Next time she asks about sacrificing babies, ask her the next time she'll be ritually sacrificing sweet baby lambs. If she doesn't know her own religion's history (i.e. following with a statement such as, "We don't have to anymore") and gets offended and denies it, well, a little bit of victory for you, and fun, after the stresses of your handfasting, to battle with.

He actually mimicked the slaughter!! He pretended to slice the throat of the fake baby lamb!! Everyone flinched - It creeped me out because he did it very willingly, and you could see the determination, and it would be very easy to see him killing in the name of his faith. I may sound dramatic, but I spend my life studying energies. It's not easy to hide those things, and he didn't even try.

Re: To (not) kill a mother in law

Posted: Thu Jul 31, 2008 8:16 pm
by Kitsune
Actually Grimwell brought that up with her... something along the lines of "Nope, you do realize that your religion had slaughter of innocents in it's history too, right?"...

Now he claims she was being sarcastic, still she keeps bugging us for "details" of the handfasting, and we keep telling her, "Well, first you're all going to stand in a circle, we're going to enter the circle, and then you don't get to stop watching us in the circle, until we leave the circle." :lol:

Apparently, simple instructions get harder to follow if you're not being told the why's and history behind each and every little detail. :-D O:)


Re: To (not) kill a mother in law

Posted: Mon Aug 04, 2008 11:57 am
by lacielonestar
Maybe she just wants details in order to understand the ritual/ceremony a little better so that she can feel more connected to the event...she doesn't want to feel like she's just standing there watching...but asking if you're gonna sacrifice babies....'cmon! #-o .

Re: To (not) kill a mother in law

Posted: Mon Aug 04, 2008 8:38 pm
by Kitsune
But... That's all you do at a Christian wedding... The only real difference for the participants, is that they're expected to stand, not sit, and not to break or leave the circle just like they're not supposed to stand up or leave during a christian ceremony. Since they have the exact same job, I don't understand that logic at all.

Still, I can't wait for it! Everything that I was waiting for has arrived (except our guest book, and I'm not worried yet since it was sent out last week from the States). The outfits have all arrived, and they fit the guys well. I have a few small alterations for my dress, but they're not big, and I'm calling a company tomorrow to ask if they can do the job.

Re: To (not) kill a mother in law

Posted: Tue Aug 05, 2008 6:43 am
by Kystar
<sarcasm>Yes, but this isn't a Christian wedding, so the traditions MUST be new and strange! There MUST be something they have to understand to make sure they don't make some HUGE insulting mistake that will cause the heavens to open up with fire and brimstone! </sarcasm>

Next time they start poking for details, start asking why certain things are done certain ways in a Christian wedding...see if they know the history and traditions THERE.

Or just find a good article about a handfasting, print the silly thing out and pass them out like homework!

Re: To (not) kill a mother in law

Posted: Wed Aug 06, 2008 9:42 am
by Kitsune
I considered that, but Grimwell rightfully pointed out that most of our family, while not actually illiterate, might as well be, since they wouldn't read the silly thing, and we'd have to tell people what the paper says by way of "explaining" to everyone seperately... Sigh.

Grrrrrrrr... And this is how I feel about that sort of belief! :axe: :butthead: :axe: :butthead: :axe: